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Should the captain really go down with his ship?

I pose this question to you all – if your single and having sex with one person in particular, is it ok to leave them for their adult friend?  I mean, there is no commitment with guy A.  He has no intention of dating you.  The relationship just consists of free sex, which is cool.  You both enjoyed it and you’re both friends but now you want to move on.  How does one go about that?  And move onto his buddy at that?

I give you this situation because a girlfriend of mine, Cindy, and I were just talking about this last night and, well, it’s her current situation.  She’s a single girl who actually likes guy A, we’ll refer to him as for convenience sake, and you know what, from my  understanding he’s not really a bad guy.  He’s just like a lot of other guys in this young adult faze – doesn’t want commitment.  They’ve been sleeping together since New Year’s on relatively regular basis of a few times a month.  You know, that weekend shit.  They had work together all this time until recently when they each found new jobs.  This made it easy for Cindy and guy A to get to know each other as friends.  But it also meant she was hanging out with his other friends as well, who worked at the same business.

This is where the situation gets sticky.  She claims she had originally had an interest for guy A’s friend, who we’ll refer to as guy B.  Guy B and her have always flirted and made verbal recognition that they are attracted to each other.

Well, now Cindy is realizing that guy A will never like her more than as an adult friend and she’s wondering if she should pursue the natural flirtations with his friend.

I’m sorry for all the code words but it all comes down to –> should you leave a comfortable free sex, no strings relationship to pursue his friend?  Especially when the friend is interested?

In Cindy’s eyes she see’s her sex relationship with guy A as a sinking ship.  She keeps trying to bail out water but it’s still going down.  Should the captain go down with the ship?

Here were my questions I asked her to see if it’s worth it:

  1. Are you really interested/attracted to guy B?
  2. Are you positive guy A will not take the relationship further?
  3. Will guy B even go for it?
  4. Would you be ok with losing the friendship of guy A?
  5. Would you be ok of losing the friendship of both guys should it go down badly?
  6. Are you ok with being called a slut behind your back? (sad I know, but guys talk)
Should your answer be YES to more than half of these I say fuck his brains out.  Guy A has had his chance and you know for a fact that he has slept with other girls, while having sex with you… if he isn’t still doing it.
There are so many men out there that (in the small case) this all blows up in your face (not literally), so what!  Find some other man who will fuck you because you know they’re out there.
So in response to “should a captain go down with his ship”.  Yes, HE should.  But no, SHE shouldn’t.  Let him deal with it.