It’s time for our bi-weekly erotic ads book review! Today we’re looking at the philosophical book entitled “If The Buddha Dated: A handbook for finding love on the spiritual path”.

This book was written by Charlotte Kasl, a highly prolific author. Along with If the Buddha Dated Charlotte has also written Many Roads: One Journey,  Women, Sex and Addiction, If the Buddha Fell in Love, If the Buddha Married, If the Buddha Had Kids, and If the Buddha Got Stuck along with many other fascinating books.

The book If the Buddha Dated was passed along to me by an adult friend a while back and I was shocked to discover that it was originally published back in 1999. The premise isn’t as black as while at the title makes it seem.

Here is amazon.com summary for the book:

In this practical, playful, yet spiritual guide, Charlotte Kasl shows you what it would be like to have the ancient wisdom of the Buddha to guide you through the dating process.

Kasl brings a compassionate understanding to the anxiety and uneasiness of new love, and helps readers discover their potential for vibrant human connection based on awareness, kindness, and honesty. She approaches the dating process as a means for awakening.

Filled with quotes from Zen, Sufi, and other traditions, and informed by the experiences of people from all walks of life, here is a relationship book that will appeal to readers looking for a solution to the complex affairs of the heart.


Here’s what I have to say about this dating Buddha book

The Good

I really, really like it! It’s thin enough that you think it’s going to be a cake walk with simple pop psychology, really it is anything but. This book combines Buddhist, Quaker and Sufi spiritual philosophy to love, helping us clear our minds.

She calls this “crawling in love,” and says, “When we crawl in love we are more likely to find the true fire of hearts meeting”

There is an emphasis on how important it is to center yourself, take time to reflect, listen to that still small voice within. She touches on ads, dating services, the internet, same gender relationships, dating when there are kids involved, physical intimacy, meditation, and breaking up.

The Bad

The only real problem I had was the title. The book actually doesn’t talk that much about Buddhism. I have a small amount of knowledge on Buddhism and I was hoping I would learn more, which I can’t really say that I did. She peppers in little tidbits here and there, but nothing that most people don’t know already.

If the Buddha Dated is like the antidote for the book I previously review called The Art of Seduction (read that dating book review here)

I give If The Buddha Dated a strong 8.5 out of 10