So you want to get a good ass smacking and maybe some light bondage from your boyfriend but you don’t know how to ask? Don’t worry, you don’t have to pretend to just “fall” over his or her knee to get a little rough loving. Finding an adult friend is hard enough, but when you’re a little kinky, it can be even more dicey. You don’t want to go on those hardcore kink sites, you might end up locked in a dog crate.

Sometimes the best way to get your kicks, literally and safely, is to train that vanilla guy or gal you’re dating in the ways of the naughty, rocky road. We’ll show you how to seduce a whip right into their hands.

 

Assume the position…for your spanking.

 

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If you love getting dominated, next time you’re doing it doggy style, ask him to pin your hands over your head. That’s an easy position for him, he can brace himself on your hands and really thrust hard. It’s a great starter pose for creating that dominant, submissive feel, plus it feels pretty damned good.

Another easy way to initiate a spanking is when you’re having sex and you’re on top, move your hips and ass around a lot. That will get most guys to put their hands on your hips to steady you a bit. When he touches your ass, smile and say “you can smack it, if you want”. When he does, tell him “harder”.

 

Bring out the sex toys for a little orgasm torture.

 

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Want him to torture you with your sex toys? Leave your vibrator on your bedside table next time you know he’s coming over. When you’re getting hot and heavy, ask him to use it on you. A good way to keep that bondage vibe going is to hold onto your bed frame the entire time, that way it will feel like you’re tied there.

Now if you’ve gotten your lover to tease you with a sex toy or two, it’s time to bring out the cuffs or rope (whatever your pleasure). By this time they should be getting the hint about your sexually adventurous nature. Leave the cuffs on the nightstand next to the vibrator. Let his see them. Smile sweetly when he notices. Allow him to take the lead here, it’ll build his confidence. Struggle a tiny bit when he ties you to the bed, that will built the sexual tension.

 

Bring the kink out of the bedroom and into the store.

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Now that the two of you have been doing a decent about of light bondage play, go to a sex shop and take a look around. Look around together and pick out something mutually pleasing. Might be a whip, might be a ball gag. The fun part will be trying it out at home together.

 

Remember. Once the whips and cuffs come out, it’s time to develop a safe word and some boundaries. When it comes to BDSM, safely has to always be a top priority. Keep these tips in mind and you’ll be getting a good spanking in no time!